The “Terrible Twos”
The famous “Terrible Twos” are probably better named the “terrible 1 1/2 – 2 1/2”. Unfortunately that means sometimes you’ll feel that your toddler is already there. This famous frustrating period comes up because kids this age are struggling between wanting to be with and be like their parents and developing their own identities.
Offering choices is often a helpful strategy. If you ask, “Do you want a cheese sandwich?” the answer will usually be “no”. An alternative is to ask “Do you want a cheese sandwich or a turkey sandwich?”
Part of this behavior is your child trying to find ways to communicate. Some of the possibilities that they explore like hitting, throwing or screaming are obviously not appropriate communication tools. Let them know that inappropriate communication techniques do not result in getting what they want. You can start to encourage them to use words to express desires.